By MICHELLE HARKEY-WILDE
Los Alamos

As we discussed last week, it is important to stay healthy physically and mentally all the time, but for many people it might be more challenging now.

There are four factors currently present for many people which are also predisposing conditions for trauma. They are listed here with some ideas for mitigating the factors.

Unpredictable situation – We function best when we can anticipate most of the variables we encounter each day. Some people have a higher tolerance for surprises, but overall, it suits us to know things will be according to plan. The COVID-19 situation is continually evolving, but we can create increased predictability with what we choose to do with ourselves. Try creating a schedule and following it as much as possible. Create some plans for something you’d like to do and do it or enjoy looking forward to it.

Inescapable situation – Being trapped, or immobile, unable to get away from the pain and difficult situation is very traumatic for our mind/body. To combat this, build as much personal movement into your day as possible. Get outside and exercise, build something, garden, cook a meal or hold a private dance party in your front room. Try yoga, tai chi or qigong from home. Show your body you are free to move in many ways.

Loss of social connection – We are social creatures, so isolation is very painful, even when it does not seem to be. Create a calendar of connections with people. Set up virtual coffee or dinner ‘together’ via video chat. Consider playing games, reading books or watching a movie with a friend or relative who lives far away using technology. When possible, increase the connection by using video chat over phone calls and emails or texts.

Loss of body connection – When the internal pain becomes too great, the natural inclination is to block the pain or strong emotions by discounting or dissociating from the physical and/or emotional pain which manifests in the body. This numbing or “spacing out” is a sign things might not be going well if it continues for too long (we all do it occasionally, even when things are great). Practice noticing what is really happening in your body through mindfulness and acceptance. Self-compassion is essential. Learn to observe yourself and make mindful choices to connect with yourself through loving touch and good self-care.

Doing activities which decrease the impact of this potentially traumatic situation is important for everyone of all ages. Many people I talk to each day are struggling in some way and these tools are the ones I recommend.

Remember, if you need professional help, it is a sign of strength to recognize this and seek appropriate care, whether it is for physical or emotional reasons.

Thanks for reading and stay healthy!

Michelle Harkey-Wilde is a licensed mental health counselor, Body-Connection Coach, massage therapist and integrative wellness specialist. This column is for educational purposes only and does not create a client-practitioner relationship. You are responsible to exercise caution in implementing any ideas contained herein and accept responsibility for your actions. Consult with your physical and mental health practitioners before implementing any new practice.