I am always amazed and humbled by the outpouring from the community when someone needs help or loses a loved one. Donations and flowers abound!
Two years ago, my grandson died. He was not born yet, but he was full term. This was the most traumatic and devastating experience of mine, my daughter’s and my son in law’s life.
Apparently, since this child was not born yet, people thought this should be swept under the rug like a dirty little secret. Because of this perception, I did not receive anything from the people around me whom I thought cared about me.
To this day, I am hurt and resentful. Yes, I know gestures such as flowers, sympathy cards and hugs will not bring my grandson back, but at least I would have known that the people around me cared enough to support me when I needed it the most.
I am sending this letter to make others aware that the family of a still born child still needs the support and caring of others around them. Keeping it a secret just makes it hurt more. Hugs go a long way. Grieving is painful; not getting the support needed makes it unbearable.