Coaching Café: Gremlins

Coaching Café:
By LeAnne Parsons
Los Alamos
This month, we’ll discuss the last of the Big 4 energy blocks. If you’re not achieving what you want to, it’s most likely one of these four that’s keeping you stuck.
In the past few issues, we looked at limiting beliefsthings that you accept about life, about yourself, about your world, or about the people in it, that limit you in some way; assumptionsexpectations that, because something has happened in the past, it will happen again; and interpretationsopinions and judgments that you create about an event, situation, person, or experience and believe to be true.
It is now time to examine the last, but certainly not the least, of the big four energy blocks. The final block we’ll talk aboutthe gremlinis the most difficult to overcome, because it’s the most personal and holds the most energy.
This barrier is the gremlin within every one of us: the inner critic. You know that little voice in your head?
That voice that tells you not to try, never to take a risk, always to take the safe road, and to compromise your life, and values by playing small? That’s your gremlin, and the message from your gremlin’s warnings is that you’re just not good enough to reach the summit of “success”.
Regardless of any evidence to the contrary, the gremlin’s annoying voice continues to whisper:
“It’s never going to happen.” This debilitating message bubbles up in many forms: “I’m not smart enough, experienced enough, and attractive enough.” It all comes back to a simple and quite vicious block: “I’m just not good enough to cut it.”
Your gremlin is highly personal. It is rooted deeply inside you and carries the most intense emotional charge of any of the blocks we’ve explored. Your gremlin thrives on fear. When you hear its whispers, your motivation to try withers. You dread failing, feeling pain, and being embarrassed.
You can even be scared of succeeding if the gremlin convinces you that you’ll fail eventually.
So what are some typical gremlins statements? Do you hear any of these statements from your own inner critic?:
  • I’m not effective.
  • Who am I kidding, here? If they only knew the real me!
  • I’m not smart enough to really do this job right.
  • I don’t have enough experience.
  • I don’t deserve great success.
  • They are going to find out I am a phony.
Being aware of your gremlin is the first step towards lessening its power. Once you realize that your gremlin exists, give it an identity. Name itand then, if you’d like, make it even more real by drawing it, sculpting it, or seeing it in your mindwhatever works for you.
In doing this, you discover that the gremlin is only a part of who you are, not your whole identity. By seeing it in objective terms, you sap some of its strength. Gremlin work can be quite involved and is most effective when a professional, certified coach guides you. LeAnne is a Coach you can trust.
The Big 4 hold you back from living the life you desire and prevent you from making conscious choices. The C.ORE Wellbeing process will allow you to examine the energy blocks in your own life that are holding you back from reaching your unlimited potential.
If you’d like more of an explanation of The C.ORE Wellbeing Program offered by LeAnne Parsons The Walk Your Talk Coach at Legacy Now Lived, please reach out! The time is now. August is a time of Action and LeAnne is located right here in Los Alamos.
She coaches live and virtually via phone or Skype. You are invited to give her a call to schedule your complimentary discovery session at 505.412.1817 today!
Thanks for reading this month and I look forward to seeing you all at Wine, Women and Words as well as Chamber and community events! Until next time, Be Well and Out Live Your Life!
LeAnne Parsons CPC, ELI-MP, CWD Specialist is The Walk Your Talk Coach at Legacy Now Lived. Parsons is a CORE Wellbeing/Leadership and Relationship Restoration Coach, Radio Host, Speaker, and Conscious Adoption Advocate. She lives in Los Alamos and offers group, individual, virtual and in person sessions as well as workshops, seminars and retreats. She can be reached at 505.412.1817 or please visit here.
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